Don't look at me like that. There ARE different ways you can cheat. Now i know what you're thinking. "If a girl/guy cheats on you that means they don't love you." I'm afraid that isn't entirely right.
Hey i'm just writing this shit down from personal experience, considering i have cheated on someone, and have been cheated on, i can offer you the different perspectives.
Now let's just get the most obvious out of the way. Yes a girl can cheat on you and that means she don't love you anymore. (I'm a guy so for the sake of this blog i'm gonna write in the POV of a man thank you.) Now imagine you're in a relationship. You are with a girl you're in love with, and you find out she had sex with another guy. If you confront her about it, she'll cry in shame and feel horrible and beg to be given another shot.... Yeah she don't love you anymore. The only reason she'd want another shot is so that you guys can break up in a way that doesn't make her look like a complete bitch. And the same goes for guys. No body wants to be a cheater. That's why when they do it they always want another shot or they break up with you. They don't want to be the bad guy. They want to be the right one that breaks up the relationship. And if they cheat on you, they do it because they don't love you the same, and they are looking for something a bit more real.
Now let's talk about my Ex gf Kim for a bit. She cheated on her boyfriend who she claimed to love. She cheated on him many many times. She goes to college, he was still in high school. He applied to her college and got in, he wanted to be with her. All the while she was going to parties, doing drugs, getting drunk and fucking random guys she didn't care about. Now did she love him?... Actually yea she did.
Here's the thing about me. If i hear you say that you love someone, no matter how much you mean it or not, i know that somewhere in your heart you HAVE to love them. No one can just say they love someone without meaning it a little. I'm a hopeless romantic, and i also know this girl better than she knows herself. She wouldn't lie about that. Chances are she really loved him. So why did she cheat on him? She's an attention whore, she wants guys to want her. Even before she met her boyfriend, thats how she got guys to fall for her. Yeah i understand how pathetic that sounds, but there are a lot of girls like that. And yeah that sounds worse, but this is the kind of world we live in now. She loves her bf, truly. But she has her own problems, and they involve sex with other guys. I don't think he ever found out either. Yeah they broke up. She probably broke it.
The third way of cheating. Now my other ex Lucy, she cheated on her boyfriend with me. We didn't have sex, but god we were close. And she initiated it. The only reason we didn't do it was because i was unprotected. She was pissed, texted me the next day and said we couldn't do it. When i asked why she said, "Before it could've been a mistake, i've had way too much time to think about it now."
This is something that is pretty uncommon. The purposeful accident. She came over my house with malevolence, and we started going at it. Of course in her right mind she knew what she was doing, and so did i. She was hoping to have a happy accident with me. One that might truly make her reconsider her bf. You see she loved him, but he treated her like shit. She was using me to help her lose him. In the end, she wound up falling for me. And i cheated on her.
No i didn't sleep with anyone. This is the fourth way you can cheat on your significant other. Time. I had a best friend who was a girl. And we acted like a couple, we did things couples did, hung out everywhere, every hour, talked every day. Went to each others jobs, went to the same school, saw movies and shows. Drank, played games, all that adorable shit. And I did this, with my girlfriend on the side. She was pissed and wanted me compromise not to hang out so late at night with my best friend. I didn't listen. Instead i rebelled and My best friend and I hung out till 6 in the morning. With that, My girlfriend and I broke up.
You see, you don't have to have sex with someone else to cheat on your girlfriend or boyfriend. You don't need to do much of anything to hurt them. It's all on how you handle it. Just like some couples can stay together even though one person cheated on the other, some couples won't make it even though they were faithful. There are reasons for this. There are different ways to cheat on someone. And there's not that many to prove you love them.
