Nice Guys: The Asshole Paradox

Well i've been busy lately. Been trying my best to get into college and job-hunting. Plus i got a girl i think i can get. So if i didn't post for a while, please forgive me... i was thinking of you, i promise.

Anyways i thought it'd be cool if we picked up where i left off last time. Talking about nice guys. (The movie review will come don't worry.)

For most of my life i considered myself a hardcore nice guy. I've tried not to stare at a woman's ass, i tried to look a girl in the eyes when her boobs were bouncing in my face, i will always compliment a girl no matter how stupid i sound, and i'm straightforward and honest. Back then, in my naive eyes women can do us no wrong and men were the pigs. Which was half true. Not all men are pigs, but women... oh can they do us wrong...

But we're not talking about women... today. We're going to talk about what's wrong with men. What's wrong with nice men. How come there are no more nice guys? It's the woman's fault. That's right. Inadvertently though.

Let's make one point clear. This is a message to all the nice guys out there. WOMEN ARE NOT ATTRACTED TO ASSHOLES! That is a HUGE misconception that i'm going to right today. Women are attracted to confident men. And i know what your thinking, "Whoa, i'm confident and i still don't get girls..." Nice guys have that weakness. They associate confidence with self-esteem. It's not the same thing. Yes, esteem has to do with it, but a guy with low self-esteem can still be confident. Nice guys tend to be a shy bunch, i know, i'm one of them. And they're reluctant to start conversation with any girl in fear of rejection. Or they put themselves down by saying, "She's too good for me." You got to get it out of your head that she's too good for you. Too good doesn't exist. Any guy can get any girl. Haven't you ever walked down the street and thought, "How did HE get HER?"

Now listen up nice guys, i'm going to tell you right now a secret that apparently none of you know. Something very important that may very well change what girl you can get. Here it is: Girls are just like you. They are waiting for you to make a move. That's it. The problem with the nice guy is that he thinks because he's nice, all the girls are going to want him. For all you know, this is true. But they aren't going to make the first move, nor should they! If you want a girl, go get her. Because she might be waiting for you. Girls love nice guys, but nice guys never ask them out.

This is where the misconception comes in. You see the world is full of nice guys. So a girl may feel... ugly or unwanted cause none of them are asking her out. In comes the asshole, who asks her out. With confidence. Asshole's are confident men, but not all confident men are assholes. Picture this, a girl comes up to you. She says, "You know... your really cute. Would you like to go out sometime?" Are you gonna say no? I sure as hell wouldn't. It's the same thing for girls. They're waiting for a guy to have the balls to say somethin like that. If an asshole does it, she'll go for it. No one else wants her. And that's your fault nice guys.

But then, the nice guy see's the girls only date assholes. Therefore, they want to be one. Simply because they think that's what a girl wants. We go full circle. Guy wants girl, too shy to act, asshole wants girl, bein an asshole he acts, girl feels wanted, goes with asshole, guy loses girl, guy becomes asshole. This, is the asshole paradox. The girls cause the guys to become assholes, but the guys brought it on themselves. It's a paradox that's created from indifference.

So who do we blame, the chicken or the egg? Honestly we can't really blame anybody, except ignorance. And really, if people knew it wouldn't make a difference anyway. I've had many guys tell me, "the worse they can do is say no." And there's truth to that. But being the paranoid guy i was, i thought they'd tell other girls and ruin my chances with them. I'm sure i'm not the only one to think that. But don't worry, if other girls know it can work in YOUR favor. One of those girls might like you, and get jealous. They'll make it known, and you'll get closer to them than the other girl. Now if your convinced your in love with the other girl... that's a whole different topic.